How LinkedIn Takes the Stress out of Friendships - Alessandro Di Fiore via Harvard Business Review
Di Fiore suppors the premise that LinkedIn helps us make use of weak ties, but suggests that the mediation of LinkedIn can also decrease the friction that can arise when asking a strong tie for a favor:
Alessandro Di Fiore via Harvard Business Review
On-line professional networks are successful around the world. In cultures like the US where people are comfortable transacting with strangers you might expect that. But why are these networks also popular in countries like Spain and Italy where business is kept inside friends and family? It is difficult to imagine that you can enter into those circles by posting a well designed profile on your LinkedIn page.
There are two explanations, I think. First and more obvious, social media can help you create weak links. Someone you make a brief acquaintance with and whom you might easily have lost touch with can be kept in your circle thanks to social media. And the possibility also remains for you to turn that weak link into a strong one. Before LinkedIn and other professional networks came on the scene it was just too costly in terms of time and mental focus to update, communicate, keep alive weak tie relationships. “We will stay in touch …” is easy to say but very hard to do. The impact of on-line professional networks on weak relationships is terrific because they let you exploit this “untapped” reserve of Social Capital.
The second explanation, I think, is that social media — contrary to common belief — allows you to better manage also your strong links. Picking up a phone or visiting someone in person puts you and them on the spot and consumes a lot of Social Capital. If you’re asking a friend for a favor personally it is very hard for that person to feel that they can say no. They may resent you for asking. It can be hard to ask as well; many people don’t ask friends to help because they are too proud. But if you ask your close friend a favor through Facebook or LinkedIn it signals to the person you’re approaching that you do not regard help in this case as a test of the relationship, which instantly reduces the tension for both sides.
By choosing LinkedIn instead of a direct call or a visit, the initiator signals that the request is a small favor, one to be handled in a spare moment and only if it doesn’t cause any great effort. This avoids using too much social capital, Di Fiore argues.


