Does a strong sense of meaning in life make you more attractive? - Eric Barker

The authors report on data indicating that having a strong sense of meaning in life makes people more appealing social interactants. In Study 1, participants were videotaped while conversing with a friend, and the interactions were subsequently rated by independent evaluators. Participants who had reported a strong sense of meaning in life were rated as desirable friends. In Study 2, participants made 10-s videotaped introductions of themselves that were subsequently evaluated by independent raters. Those who reported a strong sense of meaning in life were rated as more likeable, better potential friends, and more desirable conversation partners. The effect of meaning in life was beyond that of several other variables, including self-esteem, happiness, extraversion, and agreeableness. Study 2 also found an interaction between physical attractiveness and meaning in life, with more meaning in life contributing to greater interpersonal appeal for those of low and average physical attractiveness.

Source: “Meaning as Magnetic Force, Evidence That Meaning in Life Promotes Interpersonal Appeal” from Social Psychological and Personality Science

(via Eric Barker)

And I bet greater influence on those that they come into contact with. I bet there is a strong correlation with Twitter followers and having a strong sense of life purpose.

Our Time Is Not Our Own: Time Is The New Space

Jolie O’Dell cites another study showing the obvious: that tuning into the world outside the piecework on your desk takes time. It you add up all the time that we spend reading things, communicating with people we known, and looking at websites, and then multiply it by the dollars per hour we are paid, it’s a big number.

Yawn.

It’s preposterous to have to counter this handwaving once again, but here goes:

Workers are not gears in a machine. If your job can be performed by a soulless automaton, then your business should buy one and turn it on. You are in your job because you are a human being, and you need to be able to apply your reasoning and problem solving skills to your work. Machines can’t do that yet, except in very narrow domains like chess playing and identifying trees based on the shapes of leaves.

Our time is not our own. I truly believe that our time is increasingly not our own, but I don’t believe that our time is owned by the company that pays us. What I mean is something quite different. But first, let me dispell the other meaning.

In a world where work/life balance is increasingly blurred — especially for creatives and professionals — we are not really being paid to punch in for eight hours, and then leave the ‘plant’ where we never spend a moment thinking about work. As if.

The reality is we are being paid for results. We are supposed to make progress against goals in the projects and work we are involved in, and the new normal is that we are — to some extent — always working. And to a similar and complementary extent, we are always living our personal life too.

Its only when some boneheaded Taylorist with a bug up his ass starts measuring our bio breaks with a stopwatch that the old convention of the timecard is pulled out of mothballs, once again.

Our time is not our own, 21st century version: Time is the New Space. The norms of social and business conduct is increasingly shaped by the social contract we are making online, as opposed to the other way around.

Stowe Boyd, Social Business

We are not sharing space online, although it the conventional wisdom says we are. We are sharing time. Time has become a shared resource.

Our time is increasingly not our own, in a good way, as we move into a streamed model of connection.

Individual time becomes less of a reality, and a shared thread of time will become the norm — shared with those that are most important to you and those that reciprocate. This will change the basic structure of work.

Time is increasingly less linear, less mechanical; but more subjective and plastic.

Individuals will choose to trade personal productivity for connectedness, as voices in the stream ask for help, pointers, and introduction. Connectedness will trump other obligations, specifically timeliness.

Or to recast it in more pragmatic and workaday terms: the reason that we can do our jobs is in large part derived from who we are, and what we know, and not just some static set of skills we possessed when we were hired.

We are learning machines, and otherwise not machine-like at all. We are designed to be constantly learning, as much as possible, and a great deal of our social interaction is based around that dimension. A great deal of thinking is tied up with learning, not just applying rote knowledge to static problems. We literally have to learn our way through new situations.

Many companies have abrogated their responsibility to help employees learn continuously, and so we have taken it upon ourselves to do so. And it’s no great loss, since industrial-era education was generally teaching skills that were half out-of-date as soon as they were learned, anyway.

So, the millions of dollars that are being ‘stolen’ by employees chatting with friends or reading blogs aren’t a theft at all. They are employees investing themselves in social connection through which learning happens.

Yes, it is a bottom-up, rogue sort of learning, where the employers aren’t calling the shots, but it is learning, nonetheless. And the businesses in the end get the benefit of smarter — a synonym nowadays for ‘more connected’ — workers, as the result.

And the sooner that these idiot researchers throw away their stopwatches and start to measure what matters — instead of what’s easy to count — the better.

Americans Feel More Connected

Harris polling data shows that social networks make people feel more connected [emphasis mine]:

Thanks To Social Networks, Americans Feel More Connected to People

These are some of the results of The Harris Poll of 2,258 adults surveyed online between September 1 and 3, 2010 by Harris Interactive.

Although Americans who are online may feel more connected, they are not actually seeing people more. Almost three in five online adults (58%) say they know what’s going on with their friends and acquaintances, but don’t interact with them personally or individually, and a majority (54%) say that recently, they have had less face-to-face contact with friends.

As might be expected, there are some age differences. Younger Americans (those 18-34) are more likely than those 55 and older to find they keep in touch with more friends now than in the past (63% vs. 52%) and to feel more connected to people now (63% vs. 53%). But the flip side is also true, as those 18-34 are more likely than those 55 and older to say they have had less face-to-face contact with friends (56% vs. 49%), and, while they know what’s going on with friends, they don’t interact with them personally or individually (60% vs. 54%).

Being connected

Almost nine in ten online Americans (87%) use social media and, of these, there are different levels of connection they feel with various groups. Over half say they feel very connected or connected to close friends (58%) and immediate family (52%), while 42% say they feel this way about extended family through their social media use. Around one-third of social media users feel connected or very connected through social media to friends of friends and/or acquaintances (36%) and old classmates (32%). For business, the same feeling of connection is not quite there yet, as only one in five social media users (19%) say they feel very connected or connected through social media use to business associates.

Social media users also have preferences for how they want to connect with people. More than two in five social media users (44%) say that, in general, they prefer to interact with acquaintances using social media rather than face-to-face, but 23% say the same about interacting with friends and 19% say so about interacting with family. But, this is very age driven, as well. Three in five 18-34 year olds (59%) say they prefer to interact with acquaintances using social media rather than face-to-face compared to 38% of those 45-54 years old and 25% of those 55 and older.

This is the measure of how fast we are changing, as a society.

Almost 90% of Americans are socially connected online, and their level of closeness with people is almost the same online and off (54% v 42%).

Even in the conservative world of business, 1 in 5 says they feel very connected to business associates through the social web.

And how will it be in 1 year? 2? 5?